Life Was So Much Easier Before We Had Children..!

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Life was so much easier before we had children…!

How often do you catch yourself saying or thinking this in a challenging moment?

The problem here is not about having children and the parental challenges this can bring. The true challenge arises when you are not clearing these issues, as fast as they arrive, relevant to their age!

If not dealt with, parenting issues can stack-up, build-up, overlap and can get even more complicated the older your child gets, this existence then becomes an integral part of what is recognised today, as the ‘normal’ pressure and stress of family life!

Why do we feel it’s acceptable for a working family to live and exist under such pressure?

Why be held back and weighed down by any parental challenges when you have a choice to clear them as soon as they arrive and free up this time and space in your life?

Doesn’t that make more sense?

If you are busy working parents this is something that is achievable, you just need to have the right strategy!

If you recognise any of the Top 5 Warning Signs below and you would like to start prioritising and clearing any parental challenges you may have then please click here and connect with my diary to receive a free enquiry call with an intention of me supporting you with:

  1. Discovering what your parental challenges are.
  2. Getting the guidance and support you need to remove these challenges with least disruption.
  3. Adding valuable quality space and time into your working and family life.
  4. Aim towards building confidence and trust by removing power-struggle and conflict.
  5. Build towards creating a stronger feeling of connection, communication and trust between you all.

If this is something that you would like to explore further then please click here to receive a free enquiry call with me.

Here are 5 top reasons why you should start strategising any parental challenges out of your life!

1. Problem = Pressure = Stress, forming a disruptive cycle!

On its own, one problem is easy to handle. However, keep adding problem on top of problem, that are not getting resolved, which are coming at you from all different directions on a daily, weekly, monthly…basis! Then this will build into a pressure that will eventually evolve into stress!

2. Are you an average working family?

If you are, you’ll have a partner and two or more children, all having their own problems and challenges to deal with, which build into becoming an integral part of family life. Therefore within a family unit, this Problem = Pressure = Stress can form a disruptive cycle that can quickly multiply out of control, which can certainly affect your children’s confidence and self-esteem as they try to understand the life going on around them!

3. Multiply this by each area of life!

Once these personal and parental issues are there, we then need to add the pressure of all the other challenges coming at you from each different area of life; social, financial, physical health, career, wider family relationships, which can all add up to affecting everyone’s mental health and wellbeing!

And then ask yourself, ‘Are you seeing and clearing all these other challenges as fast as they are arriving too?’

If not, then what I have described is the pressure and stress you are carrying around with you on a daily basis because ‘problems are just on hold if they are not getting solved!’

4. Rinse and repeat!

If you are not clearing the challenges you have with your children and you believe things will be ok, this will then generate into an habitual daily, weekly, monthly, yearly… cycle of existing in this way! It’s important to realise this type of existence will eventually evolve into a lack of coherent communication, connection and trust between you!

5. Parental Warning!

If you are not actively supporting your children by example and resolving relevant parental challenges with them as fast as they arrive, and allowing these issues to build in pressure within your life and theirs, you are on a pathway towards disconnection at some point in the future!

Why not aim to free up time and space in your life by removing conflict and clearing at least the parental challenges that can build up and pull everyone’s confidence and self-esteem down to a low ebb.  Build a new strategy and process where your children learn to manage and solve their own problems (relevant to their age) as well as know and trust, as they get older, they are free to come to you for support with anything more complicated they don’t feel confident enough to handle?

Is this the sort of family model you would like to have, where connection, communication and trust are the basis to it all?

If this is something that you would like to learn more about then please click here and connect with my diary to receive a free enquiry call with me.

Jacqueline Coe

Founder/Director Intelligent Parenting®