Nov 18, 2019
What Is 'Mummy Guilt'? 1 of 7 Questions Answered
I received a few questions from a journalist recently regarding ‘Mummy Guilt’ and when I receive the link to the full article she has written I will share it with you. In the mean time, if you are interested here are the answers I gave on the subject of ‘Mummy Guilt’. There were 7 questions so I will post one out each day of this week.
1. How would you define mummy guilt?
‘Mummy Guilt’ derives from a lack of skill, knowledge and understanding being obtained in advance within the subject area of parenting and family life!
Let me simplify what I mean by this. Would you agree if you wanted to succeed at anything in life there is a need to at least have a few years of advanced study, skill and practice in place first? How confident would a surgeon feel performing surgery with no, skill, knowledge or understanding of what he/she was doing and just making things up as they went along? How much stress would they be under during the process and how much guilt would they feel as thing inevitably went wrong?
Parenting is no different when you have the responsibility of another human being in your care, especially in the area of your child’s mental and emotional health and wellbeing. Yes your children are loved, you keep them warm and fed and a roof over their heads, however as parents what advanced knowledge do you have regarding what you need to know, in understanding how to protect the long-term mental and emotional health and wellbeing of your family every step of the way?
As the adults in any parenting situation you are potentially affecting your child’s psychology from the day they are born! How are you managing this key area in your children’s life, where effects on the mind occur much later in life than the original cause and therefore giving you no understanding of why things go wrong – when they do!
I am not saying this to add yet another layer of guilt/worry on top of what may already be there! The industry - I, have a responsibility here too and I believe the industry at large is not going far enough in making the advanced psychological knowledge that is needed, simple, and available. This is why I have created the ‘Parenting and Family Success Blueprint’ as a way of being able to alleviate some of the pressure associated with many of the underlying feelings parents are having to ‘suffer’ today!
I am in the process of getting this new and unique understanding on podcast for you and hopefully ready in the New Year – I will keep you posted.
I will connect again tomorrow with the answer to question 2. 'How common have you found the phenomenon to be amongst working mums?