Nov 22, 2019
The next questions in this series of questions are so intertwined I’m going to role all 3 into one answer/one word – Education!
I also want to say that it’s no ones fault that there is no complete and defined education out there for parents, this is why I have created the ‘Parenting and Family Success Blueprint’ as a way of being able to alleviate some of the pressure associated with the various underlying feelings and stresses that so many parents feel they are ‘suffering’ today! The emotion of guilt being just one of the many and varied issues parents are saying they have!
I am in the process of getting the introduction of this new and unique on-line learning for parents in place and where the introduction of the ‘Parenting and Family Success Blueprint’ is being designed as a free podcast series created for you that will hopefully be ready in the New Year, I will keep you posted.
For now, it doesn’t matter about a lack of any organised and structure parenting information not being available to you in the past, moving forward, it’s about being aware that we are now at a time, for you as parents, to have the opportunity of finding the answers you need in order to propel your parenting experience, comfort and confidence to the next level – whatever that is for you – and I am here to support that transition for you and with you because…
My mission is about working with new and seasoned parents who want to move their parenting experience to the next level. Supporting you to build a guilt-free, purposeful life, career and family life by helping you understand what you need to know, ahead of time in order to safeguard the long-term future of your family’s mental and emotional health and wellbeing.
For example; are you a couple who are about to become parents for the first time and have no idea where to start and don’t have a clear understanding about what you are doing or what lies ahead and therefore not feeling very confident about being able to guide your child through what is needed?
Are you seasoned parents who are finding it difficult to know if you are doing the right or wrong thing regarding the decisions you are making and needing to make and finding yourself caught up in conflicts with your children and or your partner as you continue to grow and mature through family life?
Do you find yourself in a place where the only option is, making things up as you go along and then worry what future consequences of working through parenting life in this rushed, disjointed, uninformed and unorganised way will have on the psychology of your children, where you as parents and your children are not receiving a calm, guided, parenting experience only a reactive, disjoined and conflicting experience happening between you?
With the speed and pressure of life today building as it is and creating more and more focused areas of stress in our lives, there are psychological consequences for us all - adult and child alike!
This is why I have created the ‘Parenting and Family success Blueprint’ so wherever you are in your parenting journey my aim is about creating a safe and informed environment, where I am able to support and guide you away from any onslaught of chaos, confusion, guilt, doubt, pressure and stress - into a new, intelligent and organised direction of clarity, confidence ease and flow.
As I have said, my work with parents is about inspiring and empowering couples who want to take their parenting experience to the next level and supporting them to build a guilt-free, purposeful life, career and family life - and there are 4 key components to this transition:
I hope from everything I have shared it’s clear that mummy guilt sits very deeply within one’s psychology so there is no ‘quick fix’ to this, all the other layers that add up to guilt need to be removed in order to reach and erode core guilt away – one guilt at a time!
There is also a personal design to guilt - what one brings with you from your own personal journey through life into parenting and family life.
I’m afraid the only studies I am able to point you towards are my own there is no one out there that has made a study of ‘on the ground parenting and family life’ as I have regarding all the different skills that are needed within family life today.
For over twenty years now I have been studying parenting and family life within many different areas of life, human behaviour, psychology, universal laws, relationship, laws of nature, sociology, philosophy, metaphysics and Ontology. All of which are key areas that exist within family life. Other than this all these areas of expertise work in isolation of each other, however family life does not and where most - if not all these skills, are needed today!
I have done all the hard work for parents and created the ‘Parenting and Family Success Blueprint’, which distils down into 3 qualities that are need as a start to moving your parenting experience to the next level and with all of my knowledge and research from each of the areas above have now been condensed down into 3 key areas:
And all the learning that sits behind each of these three doorways!
Mastering these 3 key areas is the answer. Parents just have to want the solution enough to put the work in together (‘together’ is also key to this). From what must seem an impossible task to spending a few hours of quality time together a week over a one month period for each area of mastery would start raising your parenting and family life to the next level and allow you to break through this glass ceiling of emotion and or whatever is standing in the way of your freedom to experience a guilt free purposeful life, career and family life.
Emotional blocks and any situation you are stuck in will not clear themselves. It’s about getting the information that is needed and having the desire for this change to happen. I can bring the information, guidance and structure to the table. The desire and action that is needed can only come from you and then together we can make it happen.
Please do not hesitate to contact me if you have any questions you would like to ask me on the subject of parenting and family life, I will be happy to share the answers anonymously back to you via social media so we are then helping other parents who might have this same issue going on too, or if you prefer I will just privately get back to you: [email protected]
If you missed all or part of this mini series on the subject and phenomenon of 'Mummy Guilt' please go back to the website www.intelligent-parenting.co.uk and you will find the full set of questions and answers there.